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The Pheebs

September 2, 2011

If you haven’t figured it out by now – she’s the love of my life.

She’s quirky, eccentric, forgetful.

Kind, compassionate, caring.

She has no bump of direction; a self-professed neat freak.

And she’s absolutely gorgeous.

What makes her truly special, in my opinion, is she has the rare ability to look through the world through a child’s eyes.

Never jaded,

never bored, she looks at the world through a lens of wonderment.

What’s so amazing about this is the first 18 years of her life were pretty crappy.  It’s a long story, I won’t bore you with the details, but she’d not experienced much in the way of happiness with parents continually at odds with each other, and without much money she’d seen very little outside of day trips from suburban Detroit.

So it’s with great, great pleasure and an immense sense of accomplishment and satisfaction that I’ve given her the world to explore.

Along with toast on a tropical balcony.

We were atop a skyscraper having dinner at the finest restaurant in Hong Kong, and it made me the happiest person I ever could be to have given her this gift.

I’m sharing this as today she goes in for surgery.  She’s not the healthiest person, even though she looks great.  Two bad heart valves and a connective tissue disorder qualify her as disabled.  Lately her digestive system has refused to work, limiting her diet to not much more than rice and water.

So she goes in today to have her gallbladder taken out.  Routine surgery for the average person – excruciatingly painful for someone with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, and she’s allergic to most pain medications.  While our daughter will be there to comfort and care for her – I won’t be, as I’m half a world away, keeping a job so that she can get the healthcare she needs.

I’ve given her the world, and she has embraced it, living in the moment.

In turn, she has enriched my life beyond imagination.

Be safe, get well.

Love, Chuck.

4 Comments leave one →
  1. September 2, 2011 5:32 am

    Thank You! You know you are the love of my life too:) We will toast to health and happiness soon!


    • dangerboyandpixie permalink*
      September 2, 2011 5:52 am


  2. jeff permalink
    September 3, 2011 7:58 pm

    best of luck. this must be an odd time. good you have the girl looking after her.
    there will be toast again.

    • dangerboyandpixie permalink*
      September 3, 2011 11:48 pm

      Yes – it’s a little weird. Fortunately, I’ve good kids – much like you.

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